I have written a lot about change. Here, here, and here.
Change is inevitable. As the saying goes, don't be a tree that will not let go of its' leaves. After all, there can be no Spring if we are stuck in Fall.
Stuff happens, to put it mildly. James Taylor penned, "The secret to life is enjoying the passage of time." Easy to recognize. A bit harder to put into daily practice. What helps you to cope gracefully? Whether it be a minor inconvenience or a life altering circumstance. What keeps you forward moving and eyes clear of the rear view mirror?
Since my grad school days, I have been partial to William Glasser and his Reality Theory. Simply put, it helps me take effective responsibility of my life and maintain an internal locus of control.
It is a nice framework: State what you want. Take the necessary steps to go get it. If it is not working make a better plan. Commit to it. No excuses. Be fully present, rather than perseverate on the past. No punishment. Never give up. As a Counselor, I find it to be a wonderfully effective process to put into practice with those I meet with for counseling sessions.
It is simple enough, right? Figure out what you want. Develop a plan. Go to it. Now it is your turn. Please take a moment to share your guiding principles.