Monday, September 17, 2012
Fail Harder
Are you prepared for things to not work?
Fail Harder.
Are you willing to put yourself out there?
Take the chance to Fail Harder.
Wieden + Kennedy is an advertising agency that used 100,000 push-pin tacks to create an art installation in their offices. Check out this short video of it being made: Fail Harder.
Pablo Picasso knew something about failing harder when he stated, I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.
Carol Dweck knows it, too, and said,
Failure is important to understand because success involves repeated setbacks. If you don't know how to welcome failure, grapple with it and ultimately overcome it, you're not going to develop your potential to the fullest.
Students need to integrate a mistake or setback as not failure. Rather, just a step closer to realizing the attainment of a task, goal, or dream. We all need to look through a different lens so as to not perceive a setback or mistake as a failure.
Sunday, September 09, 2012
Set Your Intentions #7
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. ~ A. A. Milne
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Creativity is a Habit-Forming Autonomous Verb
I think that the mind in its purest functioning pursuit is creative. This is something we all possess and have free access to, but is not always encouraged and held up to the light. Hard to believe, but true.
This slide created by Bill Ferriter gets to the very heart of it:
Why is it, do you think, that creativity is related to as a bad habit? Is it due to not providing enough time to allow it to breathe and find its rhythm? Is it the by-the-book curriculum? Is it the structure of a school day? Is it the people within the school? Justin Tarte tweeted, We want students to be autonomous learners who are taking control of their learning. To me, this is most apt to happen when students have ample opportunity for exploration and ownership of creating. This takes a substantial amount of time and time seems to be a commodity that is being whittled away. Still, in some places there are educators who are devoted to making it come to life and I'd like to hear from them. Please share with all of us your role in how it is being cultivated.
Krissy Venosdale wrote this about how, at times, our good intentions are less then mindful in the way we relate to students:
Milton Glaser says this about his creative philosophy:
To me, his philosophy speaks to the path along which
one journeys and not the end product itself. In school, how can we set the stage for students so these bursts of insight can happen organically? How can we shift the perception so that creativity is viewed as an admirable, expected habit? Please comment. I'd like to hear from you.
This slide created by Bill Ferriter gets to the very heart of it:
Why is it, do you think, that creativity is related to as a bad habit? Is it due to not providing enough time to allow it to breathe and find its rhythm? Is it the by-the-book curriculum? Is it the structure of a school day? Is it the people within the school? Justin Tarte tweeted, We want students to be autonomous learners who are taking control of their learning. To me, this is most apt to happen when students have ample opportunity for exploration and ownership of creating. This takes a substantial amount of time and time seems to be a commodity that is being whittled away. Still, in some places there are educators who are devoted to making it come to life and I'd like to hear from them. Please share with all of us your role in how it is being cultivated.
Krissy Venosdale wrote this about how, at times, our good intentions are less then mindful in the way we relate to students:
You need to read this. I said to. Do this first. Follow this pattern. This is the way to do it. Here is the right way. Sit still. Complete the front side. Number your paper. Do as I say. Raise your hand before speaking. Put your name at the top. I give this a 95%. Follow the classroom rules. Be engaged. Keep your eyes on your page. Choose A, B, or C. I talk, you learn. You’re following my lesson plan. My classroom.
Little words. Tiny phrases. Together? They create fences that keep our kids in one safe spot where learning and exploring become all about what we say to do. Fences that keep kids from learning. (Here is her entire post, Learning Because The Gates Are Wide Open).Krissy puts forth a timely example of how we can be a wet blanket to creativity and autonomous learning. What are your daily practices that do not fence in students? Let us call it Free Range Learning. Again, I'd be grateful to hear from you.
Milton Glaser says this about his creative philosophy:
There's no such thing as a creative type. As if creative people can just show up and make stuff. As if it were just that easy. I think people need to be reminded that creativity is a verb, a very time consuming verb. It's about taking an idea in your head, and transforming that idea into something real. And that's going to be a long and difficult process. If you're doing it right, it's going to feel like work.Consider a time when you had a moment from which sprang a perfect idea-- an a-ha moment. It came seemingly and suddenly out of nowhere. An epiphany. Chances are, you were probably taking a nap, driving your car, waiting at the airport, or in the shower. Some place like that. Milton Glaser had one such moment in a taxi and this is what he sketched on an envelope. That sketch led to this iconic design. Those magical moments of insight only take place after lots of tireless effort and concerted thought. It just does not happen in a single moment. Persistence and perseverance always precede it.
To me, his philosophy speaks to the path along which
one journeys and not the end product itself. In school, how can we set the stage for students so these bursts of insight can happen organically? How can we shift the perception so that creativity is viewed as an admirable, expected habit? Please comment. I'd like to hear from you.
Friday, June 22, 2012
Summer Reading Bundle for Educators: Keep Reading, Continue Learning
It has been quite a while since my last bundle of books. So, with Summer upon us here are the latest books to get you reading.
My Professional Choice is Raising a Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske. If you are a school counselor then this is a must read. Sensory Processing Disorder can vary so much from person to person. Proprioceptive. Vestibular. Sensory Registration. Sensory Defensiveness. And on and on. These kids are in every school and it has been my experience that we are not proactively accommodating and advocating for them with fidelity. It is my opinion that the school counselor is the go-to person for this type of information and needs to have a strong reservoir of knowledge from which to draw and collaborate effectively with the school community. This book is a wonderful resource and will make a significant difference in enhancing your awareness and understanding. (And this book, too-- The Out of Sync Child-- Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder by Carol Kranowitz).
Every summer I make an effort to read authors that I probably should have read, but never got around to it. With the recent death of Ray Bradbury, I decided for my Personal Choice to read a couple of his--Dandelion Wine and Fahrenheit 451. I just started Dandelion Wine and it is a magically wonderful tribute to childhood summers. Read this and it will set your mind right for the entire summer.
My Kid Lit pick this time around is This Plus That: Life's Little Equations by Amy Krouse Rosenthal. This author looks at things we see each and every day and turns them into something fresh and vibrant. And always with a little bit wonder and a smidgen of whimsy. Click here for a book trailer. I read this book as part of a classroom lesson and then asked the students to create their own equations. Here are a few: Problem + School Counselor = Solution, Good Book + Free Time = Great Adventure, and Hard Work + Determination = Goal Accomplished. Give it a try with your students. I guarantee you will be showered with creativity and original thinking.
As always, over to the left are the links to these books-- Books To Inspire.
Enjoy. Keep reading. Keep learning.
Saturday, June 02, 2012
The Learning Shoe
My friend, Stephen Hurley, over at Teaching Out Loud put out this fun, thought-provoking post about what type of shoe most represents your style of teaching. I briefly commented, but thought it deserved a post all of its own. So here it is.
Hiking boots most represent my style as a counselor educator.
They are good for Exploring. There is a lot to see, experience, and learn out there in the world… and it is usually off the beaten path. For me, there is nothing like getting out to nature to ratchet up self-discovery, as well as the discovery of what life has to offer. I’ve discussed in the past the importance of being comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Making oneself vulnerable is OK. Taking acceptable risks definitely gets one out of a well-worn rut and can be growth-producing. Hiking boots allow you to put yourself out there and be open to that sort of experience. With a bit of effort there are opportunities and possibilities there for the taking.
They are also durable, reliable, steady…. made for the long haul. Hiking boots are usually not swift of foot, but built to get you through the tough moments. They are meant to get messy, scuffed-up, and dirty. Hiking boots provide Support to get you up the tough climbs and down the steep descents, too. Life and learning is a lot like this.
A good hike in this type of shoe cleanses the palette of the mind and puts things in perspective for objective and meaningful Understanding. Sometimes learning can be confounding. Sometimes we need to reframe our thought process. From confusion comes the A-ha moments. My preferred shoe of choice for educating does just that.
Exploration. Support. Understanding. Effort. This is my approach to teaching.
I just may need to start wearing hiking boots to school!
But what about you? What is the shoe to represent your style of teaching? (By the way, Stephen’s are Hush Puppies).
Wednesday, May 09, 2012
Learning Is A Leap Of Faith
This short video piece is so awesome I can't help but smile. Maybe you've seen it. It's this girl about to ski jump for the first time. She is at the top peering down trying to talk herself through this scary, uncertain moment.
Think about it. Significant practice and effort led her to this precipice. Now, here she is.... Can she do it? Will she do it? What is holding her back? What will allow her to go through with the experience?
Watch this: As she says, Here goes something, I guess.
Did you notice the voices in the background of the people teaching and coaching her through this leap of faith? Encouraging, not hollering. Patiently talking her through the jump. Totally supportive of her endeavor at this place and in this moment. To me it is beautiful to behold.
For the past few years I have engaged in a lot of thought and discussion about getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable, the growth mindset, and the process of learning. To me and my way of thinking, this video encapsulates that: being flexible and fluid rather than rigid and stuck; being open and willing to take that step into the unknown, as well as nurturing and being fully present for someone.
Hopefully, we have all had such moments. The first (and only) time I went scuba diving was one. Watching my kids ride a bike for the first time was another. The moment college algebra equations finally clicked was yet another. How about you? What leap of faith learning experiences have you encountered?
I believe we all need to hoot and holler (like the girl in the video) over our accomplishments! Let me hear you!
Think about it. Significant practice and effort led her to this precipice. Now, here she is.... Can she do it? Will she do it? What is holding her back? What will allow her to go through with the experience?
Watch this: As she says, Here goes something, I guess.
Did you notice the voices in the background of the people teaching and coaching her through this leap of faith? Encouraging, not hollering. Patiently talking her through the jump. Totally supportive of her endeavor at this place and in this moment. To me it is beautiful to behold.
For the past few years I have engaged in a lot of thought and discussion about getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable, the growth mindset, and the process of learning. To me and my way of thinking, this video encapsulates that: being flexible and fluid rather than rigid and stuck; being open and willing to take that step into the unknown, as well as nurturing and being fully present for someone.
Hopefully, we have all had such moments. The first (and only) time I went scuba diving was one. Watching my kids ride a bike for the first time was another. The moment college algebra equations finally clicked was yet another. How about you? What leap of faith learning experiences have you encountered?
I believe we all need to hoot and holler (like the girl in the video) over our accomplishments! Let me hear you!
Wednesday, May 02, 2012
Filter
Filter.
That is the word I chose to reflect the way I want to live in 2012.
Why Filter? Some foods have been giving me wicked headaches and I decided it was high time to be mindful of what I put in my body. Food-related headaches were wiping me out.
As I pondered this I also decided to Filter what/how I thought and the manner in which I spoke as well. Sometimes I find myself fretting over that which I have no control. Other times I found myself wanting to be more mindful with how my words were being received by others.
Filter seemed to be a good fit for the word I selected to emulate in the the year 2012.
So, as Fate would have it, just as I began to acquire a comfort level with my blogging voice and used that as a springboard to Twitter and picked Filter as my word for 2012 you will never guess what happened next. I was diagnosed with left vocal fold paralysis. I literally lost my voice.
No one wants to hear the word paralysis applied to oneself.
Not ever.
This got my attention.
On the day of my diagnosis, I came home to find this on my NPR feed: How My Voice Went Silent.
What a coincidence. The same day I learn of my left vocal fold paralysis an NPR reporter writes an article about his own diagnosis with it. Small world. The timeliness of reading his article was uncanny and helped so much to realize I was not the only one to experience such a thing.
Naturally, going though something like this provided the opportunity for me to learn about myself very quickly. There is no ignoring or putting it off for later. One thing I learned-- no matter how I try, I do not think I truly appreciate something until I no longer have it. Everyone is probably like that. I took my voice for granted-- the sound of it, the laugh, a whisper, a shout, everything...
Another thing I learned, crazy as it seems, is I did not worry over it. It did not cause me to be afraid. Nor did I have any anger regarding it. I accepted it from the get-go. That definitely helped me to move forward.
My word for the year is playing a part in my Voice coming back. I Filtered-out the words and patterns of habit that could be unhealthy and negative and Filtered-in thoughts and beliefs that were positive and healing. It is definitely an on-going challenge, but one that is making me better. Isn't that what it is all about?
What is your word for 2012 and how is it progressing thus far for you? If you have yet to select your word I encourage you to do so. It could make all the difference.
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Make Your Day
Watch this short film, Caine's Arcade. It will make your day.
Creativity. (check) Imagination. (check) Passion. (check) Engaging. (check) Charming. (check)
The story of Caine and his arcade has spread like wild fire. If you have yet to watch this, please do. It is something to behold.
To me, Caine is the epitome of the saying, "Do what you like, like what you do."
Enjoy. I am off to buy a Fun Pass.
Creativity. (check) Imagination. (check) Passion. (check) Engaging. (check) Charming. (check)
The story of Caine and his arcade has spread like wild fire. If you have yet to watch this, please do. It is something to behold.
To me, Caine is the epitome of the saying, "Do what you like, like what you do."
Enjoy. I am off to buy a Fun Pass.
Saturday, March 10, 2012
Set Your Intentions #6
The sea is dangerous and its storms terrible, but these obstacles have never been sufficient reason to remain ashore...unlike the mediocre, intrepid spirits seek victory over those things that seem impossible...it is with an iron will that they embark on the most daring of all endeavors...to meet the shadowy future without fear and conquer the unknown.
~Ferdinand Magellan
Thursday, March 01, 2012
Flashbacks to Good Grief
I've been devoting some time connecting my dots as a Counselor by reflecting on the path that has taken me to this point. If you have missed the previous posts here they are-- Flashbacks to a New Counselor and Flashbacks to the Pirate Counselor.
Flashback
Shock and numbness has found its way to you as a consequence of these deaths which have occurred within the school community. At the same time a hyper-awareness and heightened sensitivity is also present. The impact of the deaths, the media scrutiny, and high degree of need by the student body/community is overwhelming.
Words to live by to the Rookie Counselor Me: Death and Dying. There is no preparation for this. Not really. You'll read plenty of books on the subject. You will go to workshops about critical incident stress management and attend conferences about suicide and the like.
People are going to die. You will genuinely try to support the people they leave behind. Mostly you need to be there for them. Listen. Let their voices be heard. It is important that they feel as if you truly hear their story of grief.
I think you will know what to do by the feel and instinct of the circumstances. You will need to measure the moment, for this is a sensitive subject. Every person, every family has their own beliefs on how it should be dealt with and what customs to follow. Some do so very privately. Others quite publicly. Some want support. Others insulate themselves from it. There is no one way. No correct way. Just the personal way; the way that finds you and nestles close to your heart.
All this leads to what this post is really meant to convey--Self Care. Caring for Yourself is all about You. And, if you think about it, that is about the last thing a Counselor does day-in and day-out while in the school house. Self-care is easier to do then you may think and yet harder to realize when you need to do it.
So, if you are reading this I need your assistance. I would like you to help all our Future Selves. I have created a google document where you may list what works for you. Consider sharing your passions, that which gives you joy, activities which recharge you or puts you in the Flow (Mihaly Csikszentmihaly/Flow). Anything that helps you care for yourself.
Here is the Google Document: Self-Care for Your Future Self. Thanks for your support and contribution. I am curious to learn what self-care looks like for you.
Flashback
Shock and numbness has found its way to you as a consequence of these deaths which have occurred within the school community. At the same time a hyper-awareness and heightened sensitivity is also present. The impact of the deaths, the media scrutiny, and high degree of need by the student body/community is overwhelming.
Words to live by to the Rookie Counselor Me: Death and Dying. There is no preparation for this. Not really. You'll read plenty of books on the subject. You will go to workshops about critical incident stress management and attend conferences about suicide and the like.
People are going to die. You will genuinely try to support the people they leave behind. Mostly you need to be there for them. Listen. Let their voices be heard. It is important that they feel as if you truly hear their story of grief.
I think you will know what to do by the feel and instinct of the circumstances. You will need to measure the moment, for this is a sensitive subject. Every person, every family has their own beliefs on how it should be dealt with and what customs to follow. Some do so very privately. Others quite publicly. Some want support. Others insulate themselves from it. There is no one way. No correct way. Just the personal way; the way that finds you and nestles close to your heart.
All this leads to what this post is really meant to convey--Self Care. Caring for Yourself is all about You. And, if you think about it, that is about the last thing a Counselor does day-in and day-out while in the school house. Self-care is easier to do then you may think and yet harder to realize when you need to do it.
So, if you are reading this I need your assistance. I would like you to help all our Future Selves. I have created a google document where you may list what works for you. Consider sharing your passions, that which gives you joy, activities which recharge you or puts you in the Flow (Mihaly Csikszentmihaly/Flow). Anything that helps you care for yourself.
Here is the Google Document: Self-Care for Your Future Self. Thanks for your support and contribution. I am curious to learn what self-care looks like for you.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Flashbacks to The Pirate Counselor
The acclaimed director, George Roy Hill gave a dressing-down to Paul Newman for feeling sorry for himself and for believing that he was not worthy of his lot in life. Mr. Newman lamented that if it were not for luck he'd be a nobody. Mr. Hill told him, "Some people sit by the window all day and watch Luck pass by."
Opportunity. Fate. Luck.
So, really, it is not just luck. It takes Fate. The right place at the right time. Circumstances and Opportunity, too. And you need to seize the moment. Otherwise, Luck will just pass right by your window.
Flashback
It is the last day of your first school year as a counselor and a parent drops by your office. She is about to ask if you know anyone who'd like to be a counselor on a sail boat to work with adjudicated youth. No pressure or anything, but You better do this!
Malcolm Gladwell has a pretty good theory laid out in his book, Outliers, that it takes 10,000 hours to master your craft. It requires innate talent, to be sure. But it also requires no small amount of opportunity, luck, and practiced purposeful repetition. Mr. Gladwell delineates the timeline of Bill Gates and The Beatles as they did their thing hour after hour after hour for years at a time. It is a story worth reading.
Words to live by to The Rookie Counselor Me: This seems kind of daunting when you are just beginning. But, if you have found your thing, then you do it because you love it. It will drive you and provide you with profound meaning. It is your little Acorn of Purpose. If it is what you really want to do with your life then it is going to grow and prosper and thrive.
Flashback
You will sail aboard the Francis Crow, namesake for the Englishman who, in 1818, patented the first liquid mariner compass. She's a 40-foot schooner of tight and limited space for 8 kids, a Captain, and a First Mate. (These camps sailed the Chesapeake Bay for week-long excursions.) You will help them learn responsibility, respect, manners, cooperation and teamwork, and on and on. These kids will swab the decks, cook in the galley, clean the head, practice seamanship, and try not to wring each others' neck. There will be boys and girls from age 8 to 17. It will be quite the challenge.
I could not have asked for a more organic setting to work on group dynamics and individual behaviors of real concern (BORC). Crammming 11 people in a small space with blazing sun one day and driving rain the next creates a canvas of plentiful drama for a counselor to practice his craft.
This was an invaluable and mighty learning experience for me. I plowed through a lot of those 10,000 hours needed to become versatile in my craft. (During the Summer, 6 days a week, for 5 years). It was fun. It did not feel like 'work'. It required a high degree of concentrated focus, a receptive openness to be in the moment and fully present, and nurturing engagement with these kids from culturally eccletic experiences.
It took Luck.
Do not let Luck pass by your window.
Opportunity. Fate. Luck.
So, really, it is not just luck. It takes Fate. The right place at the right time. Circumstances and Opportunity, too. And you need to seize the moment. Otherwise, Luck will just pass right by your window.
Flashback
It is the last day of your first school year as a counselor and a parent drops by your office. She is about to ask if you know anyone who'd like to be a counselor on a sail boat to work with adjudicated youth. No pressure or anything, but You better do this!
Malcolm Gladwell has a pretty good theory laid out in his book, Outliers, that it takes 10,000 hours to master your craft. It requires innate talent, to be sure. But it also requires no small amount of opportunity, luck, and practiced purposeful repetition. Mr. Gladwell delineates the timeline of Bill Gates and The Beatles as they did their thing hour after hour after hour for years at a time. It is a story worth reading.
Words to live by to The Rookie Counselor Me: This seems kind of daunting when you are just beginning. But, if you have found your thing, then you do it because you love it. It will drive you and provide you with profound meaning. It is your little Acorn of Purpose. If it is what you really want to do with your life then it is going to grow and prosper and thrive.
Flashback
You will sail aboard the Francis Crow, namesake for the Englishman who, in 1818, patented the first liquid mariner compass. She's a 40-foot schooner of tight and limited space for 8 kids, a Captain, and a First Mate. (These camps sailed the Chesapeake Bay for week-long excursions.) You will help them learn responsibility, respect, manners, cooperation and teamwork, and on and on. These kids will swab the decks, cook in the galley, clean the head, practice seamanship, and try not to wring each others' neck. There will be boys and girls from age 8 to 17. It will be quite the challenge.
I could not have asked for a more organic setting to work on group dynamics and individual behaviors of real concern (BORC). Crammming 11 people in a small space with blazing sun one day and driving rain the next creates a canvas of plentiful drama for a counselor to practice his craft.
This was an invaluable and mighty learning experience for me. I plowed through a lot of those 10,000 hours needed to become versatile in my craft. (During the Summer, 6 days a week, for 5 years). It was fun. It did not feel like 'work'. It required a high degree of concentrated focus, a receptive openness to be in the moment and fully present, and nurturing engagement with these kids from culturally eccletic experiences.
It took Luck.
Do not let Luck pass by your window.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Advocate
Here is a recent Tweet from my Twitter friend Dr. Mason:
Dr. Erin Mason
I have more to write then what the 140-characters Twitter allows. So, here comes a blog post. Usually I ponder and percolate with these things. Not with this. It was kind of there just waiting to be expressed. So, thanks, Dr. Mason.
I segmented this metamorposis into three stages of my own personal development: 1). Reason for entering grad school, 2). Freshly minted mindset of a Graduate, and 3). What I believe at this precise moment.
Reason for entering graduate school
I was disenchanted with what I was doing, coupled with feeling compelled by the desire to have the same impact on kids which I experienced while growing up. I was fortunate to have many adults willing to take me under their wing, kick me in the rear as was sometimes necessary, and encourage me during my formative years. They included a coach, a few teachers, and church leaders.
Upon graduation
It was genuine, but rather vague: Help prepare young people for a future in which they may experience success. That's it. Not much to go on, I know, but that's it.
Today, this is where I believe my advocacy resides
Intrinsic Motivation - I'd love for kids to do stuff because they want to do it and because it is in their highest interest.
Understanding - I want young people to know about how things --desires, emotions, beliefs-- work, the cause and effect of their thoughts/actions, and what makes their 'self' tick.
Process of Change - Awareness of how changing happens naturally, not forcefully or that which is placed upon you.
Passion - Discover it. Unleash it. Wake up each morning to share all that you have to offer.
This is how I want to advocate and will do so for each person who I find myself in their midst to the best of my ability. Each young person arrives with a unique life story, baggage they carry with them, limited/extensive background knowledge and experiences. Perhaps, what I strive for is to remove the obstacles from their path so as to clear the way for them to grow unencumbered.
Or, maybe, this captures what I am looking for when I now think of advocacy---as Shakespeare so elegantly penned, My heart is ever at your service.
Thanks, Dr. Mason, for nudging me to reflect. Now it is your turn to comment, #CSL521. I'd love to hear from you. Please share your Counselor Mindset at this point in your career!
Monday, February 13, 2012
Flashbacks To A New Counselor
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well worn path; and that will make all the difference.” ~Steve Jobs
I am going to spend the next few posts connecting my dots. At the same time, I'll give some flashback advice to the old me. Not sure how this will turn out or if it will be of benefit to you, but I hope it helps the Rookie School Counselor Me.
Flashback
I remember sitting on the floor in my counselor room staring at shelves full of books, games, manuals, and files not knowing where to begin. In walks my Principal and asked if I was all set to begin the school year. Internally, I thought, Not so much. I was overwhelmed. I looked her straight in the eyes and said, You bet!
Think about it. One day you are a Student and the next day you are the Expert. Graduated. Certified. The Works. Like it or not, that will be your perceived role. At least, by some it will.
Words to live by to the Rookie Counselor Me: Do not hide from it. Do not run away from it. Embrace it. Unleash your Passion. Meet it square-on and Believe in your 'self'.
As Steve Jobs said, "...trust in something-- your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever." Mark your internal compass by that and set sail. You are Curious. And Resilient. A Persistent bugger, too. So roll up those sleeves and have at it. You will make a Good Noise.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Unexpected, Yet Perfect
Several years ago I was teaching a lesson to a class. It was a disaster. At least that was my initial assessment. The class was off-task in every way. If I remember correctly it was snowing outside and we were preparing for an early dismissal.
I was exasperated and my patience box was empty. I recall giving my “I’m disappointed in you” speech and instructing the class to be silent for the remaining five minutes. To coin a phrase, it was one of those days.
The following week when I had that class again several hands were immediately raised. When called upon, a student requested if they could do what they did last week. I was perplexed. What could this student possibly be referring to? Last week was something I wanted to move on from. However, in an effort to learn from the previous lesson, I asked what was it that we did which was so enjoyable. The response was unexpected, yet perfect. The student told me he wanted to sit absolutely still. When probed further, other students echoed this sentiment. “Yeah, it was relaxing” and “It gave me a chance to think about my day” and “I like listening to my own breath.” How cool is that!?
Essentially, they were asking to be in the moment; fully present and engaged. Not distracted. Not impulsive. Not off task. From then on I have incorporated that type of activity into many lessons. It teaches them to be more aware of themselves and how they are connecting to the process of learning.
After that I found something called, The Kid's Yoga Deck. It includes easy to use strategies which promote concentration and focus. I have also found that these exercises help kids to pay attention to how their body responds to stressful situations. It is empowering for young people to be attuned to their mind and body.
What unexpected, yet perfect outcomes have you experienced in your own life?
I was exasperated and my patience box was empty. I recall giving my “I’m disappointed in you” speech and instructing the class to be silent for the remaining five minutes. To coin a phrase, it was one of those days.
The following week when I had that class again several hands were immediately raised. When called upon, a student requested if they could do what they did last week. I was perplexed. What could this student possibly be referring to? Last week was something I wanted to move on from. However, in an effort to learn from the previous lesson, I asked what was it that we did which was so enjoyable. The response was unexpected, yet perfect. The student told me he wanted to sit absolutely still. When probed further, other students echoed this sentiment. “Yeah, it was relaxing” and “It gave me a chance to think about my day” and “I like listening to my own breath.” How cool is that!?
Essentially, they were asking to be in the moment; fully present and engaged. Not distracted. Not impulsive. Not off task. From then on I have incorporated that type of activity into many lessons. It teaches them to be more aware of themselves and how they are connecting to the process of learning.
After that I found something called, The Kid's Yoga Deck. It includes easy to use strategies which promote concentration and focus. I have also found that these exercises help kids to pay attention to how their body responds to stressful situations. It is empowering for young people to be attuned to their mind and body.
What unexpected, yet perfect outcomes have you experienced in your own life?
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Set Your Intentions #5
This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good.
-Author Unknown
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
I Have Anger Issues With Anger Issues - Part 2: Emotionally Speaking
In the last post I voiced my concern over 'anger issues'. I believe that it is an over-used catch phrase. I have found that we expect kids to be able to act a certain way just because someone tells them they should know better. Or, that a school has rules and students should know right from wrong-- or face the consequences. Like it just magically happens.
Here is what I think: Behavior concerns are a lot like Academic concerns. There is either a skill deficit or something going on with skill fluency. With academics, we usually provide the supports necessary to remediate and help the student along. When dealing with behavior which stems from emotions the whole tangled ball is quite a challenge.
Here is what I try to do to help kids as well as collaborate with Teachers and Parents:
Be Aware
Learn to recognize the signs of your anger. Anger is an emotional signal that warns something is wrong and needs to be addressed.
Positive Emotional Expression
It is okay to have angry emotions. Some kids are taught that anger is bad. That is not true. It all pivots on the manner in which it is conveyed. Take responsibility for your actions and emotions. Blaming will not help. In fact, it will probably escalate the situation. Use "I" statements to help claim ownership of the situation. (Here is an example from The Responsive Classroom).
Healthy Strategies
Our students need help with this. This includes practiced repitition, encouraging feedback, and nuanced refinement. There are some things that sound easy to do- like counting to 10 and taking deep breaths- but are really, really difficult to actually do during the heat of the moment. These things seem to help some folks, so give it a whirl and see how it works for you. If those don't seem to help try removing yourself from the situation. Give yourself a Mantra. Go do something you enjoy. Talk to someone you trust. Draw. Go run in the gym. Shoot hoops. (I am not a big fan of hitting a pillow, or anything like that. Instead, squish clay or kneed dough).
There are lots of resources out there which can be of great help to you as you help the young people in your life. Explore. Try new things. Find what works for you. Here are a few ideas: Angry Animals 2 board game, free Feeleez feelings coloring sheets, Managing Your Anger: What's Behind It? poster, Howard B. Wigglebottom animated book, and book reviews by Roxanne at Books That Heal Kids on Anger. What books, games, activities do you like to put to use? Please share.
One last thing. This is important. All these strategies and interventions are good. What I think is most essential, though, is to carve out your own thought process/belief system/philosophy that works personally for you in regards to how the process of change occurs. It is all about taking a situation from where it currently is and helping it evolve to where you aspire to be. This is a slow, gradual process. Here is an old post which lays out The Process Of Change for me. What do you hang your hat on when it comes to Shifting Yourself?
Thursday, January 05, 2012
I Have Anger Issues with Anger Issues - Part 1
Parent: My Daughter is always mad at me. I think she has anger issues.
Teacher: I know what his problem is....he does not know how to control his anger.
To that I say this-- enough already.
The times are few and far between that someone became angry because of anger. More than likely the triggering emotion was jealousy, frustration, worry, or embarrassment. Maybe it was a feeling of exclusion. Or somebody touched some one's stuff without permission. Maybe a friend borrowed a prized possession and did not return it. In any case, the outcome was not as anticipated. Perhaps, that is what led to the anger.
Do me a favor. Please do not call it anger issues. Instead, call it a problem with sharing. Or fearful of not fitting in with peers. Maybe sad about moving to a new school. All these things could cause an outward, visible expression of anger. But, underneath the surface is something else. Look for it. Sit with it. Acknowledge it. Address it. Be Healthy about it. It is not going to go away on its own. Covering it with the blanket statement of 'anger issues' does little to address the behavior of real concern.
I believe an important skill to learn is to cope; to make a difficult and stressful situation less so. What do you do when something does not turn out the way in which you hoped and thought it would? How do you deal with these trying, sudden emotions? How can we help young people as they experience something like this?
In my next post- I Have Anger Issues with Anger Issues, Part 2: Emotionally Speaking- I will deliniate the manner in which I set out to help young people navigate their emotions.
Sunday, January 01, 2012
I Will Strive
Someone once told me that Persistence and Perseverance are omnipotent. With that in mind, I have decided what to Strive for in 2012.
I will strive to help Educators get actively engaged with Twitter. In the short time I have been with TwitterNation it has altered my perception in a Good and Profound way. And, it is the best source of Professional Growth and Development there is to offer.
I will charge forward with a full head of Motivation to pursue my return to running. I've been away from it for many years and am finding that I genuinely enjoy this form of exercise. Besides, it is excellent for maintaining positive well-being.
I vow to BE THERE in each moment with mindful awareness for my family. When I caught myself spacing-out over stuff at work as I was saying prayers and tucking my kids into bed I knew the jig was up.
That is my list. I am not going to ponder it. Nor am I going to talk about it. I am just going to Strive to Do it. Any Encouragement you can offer will be appreciated! Please check in with me from time to time.
Here is to a Healthy, Abundant New Year.
I will strive to help Educators get actively engaged with Twitter. In the short time I have been with TwitterNation it has altered my perception in a Good and Profound way. And, it is the best source of Professional Growth and Development there is to offer.
I will charge forward with a full head of Motivation to pursue my return to running. I've been away from it for many years and am finding that I genuinely enjoy this form of exercise. Besides, it is excellent for maintaining positive well-being.
I vow to BE THERE in each moment with mindful awareness for my family. When I caught myself spacing-out over stuff at work as I was saying prayers and tucking my kids into bed I knew the jig was up.
That is my list. I am not going to ponder it. Nor am I going to talk about it. I am just going to Strive to Do it. Any Encouragement you can offer will be appreciated! Please check in with me from time to time.
Here is to a Healthy, Abundant New Year.
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